tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2727385194202256143.post8701200326600871018..comments2023-08-23T12:09:14.042-05:00Comments on Sliding Through the Mind of Me...: The Darker Side...Brian Brownhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11111268898382335780noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2727385194202256143.post-61414630369477163632014-04-27T18:21:16.736-05:002014-04-27T18:21:16.736-05:00I don't know what to say to this particular is...I don't know what to say to this particular issue. I'm sorry you and your family had to go through this. The beast knows no bounds, and sometimes the person that is diagnosed has no idea how to handle it,so they shut down, turn into themselves and just get lost. That is what sounds like happened here. It is a sad and very hard place to be for everyone. No one should have to go through this alone, but ultimately we have to abide by the decision the diagnosed makes. Definitely the caregivers suffer too. Everyone does. Ripples in a pond reach every corner and every shallow. I am sorry to hear of the abusive behavior... I went through a time of that as well. But I was madder at myself than at anyone else. Just the only outlet there was was to lash out at those trying to help. I wish there was more I could say or do... All I can offer is prayer and good thoughts. I am sure you and yours did all you could and withstood it all...Brian Brownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11111268898382335780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2727385194202256143.post-82141384223366188652014-04-14T19:20:42.615-05:002014-04-14T19:20:42.615-05:00I lost my husband a year ago last January to dc. ...I lost my husband a year ago last January to dc. Treated at the U. Of Chicago would not operate and he chose no second opinion<br /> I did all the research, he did none. That was his typical attitude through the whole journey. We all suffered because of this. He closed up even more than he always had been. Nothing touched him. He was NED for two years. When he was told it became back. He never asked for any specifics just went like a lamb to more chemo. As it turned out, the chemo caused his ultimate death. He couldn't do the chemo and the drs well let's say, well nothing. It was sad and the only time he asked what to do was when it was too late. Figures. Caregivers suffer also. He's at peace now and his abusive behavior affect me no more. <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2727385194202256143.post-31822942956998281652014-03-31T22:37:52.084-05:002014-03-31T22:37:52.084-05:00BC - It is exceedingly difficult to be empathetic ...BC - It is exceedingly difficult to be empathetic without having a common frame of reference... Plus, since every journey is as different as the people that are in them, there is no 100% common place to look at them... I am sure you are doing fine, and I would assume your husband would agree. I agree that everyone that goes through EC (or any major illness for that matter) is a hero... However, that also includes those who watch and support... the Watchers I like to call them. It changes everyone in some form or another. Just stay strong, be positive and do what you can for your husband but also for YOU... Lea Ann learned that and it helped me in the long run see how much of an ass I was being and how I needed to change that part of my journey. I'm still learning. It becomes, as they have said before, the "new normal" and that can take some time to get used to. Keep on keeping on... And I am sure you will. :)Brian Brownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11111268898382335780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2727385194202256143.post-51614886788375398832014-03-30T12:39:57.368-05:002014-03-30T12:39:57.368-05:00Brian, Thank you for sharing this. It makes me wo...Brian, Thank you for sharing this. It makes me wonder if perhaps I have not been empathetic enough with what my husband has been experiencing. Anyone who is going through EC is a hero. I know my husband has gone through this for his family, especially his young sons. God Bless you and yours. --B.C. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com